Self growth


Hi loves, how has your week been. This week’s post is about building confidence and I’m thinking of doing a single series next week. But let’s get right on to today’s post on building your confidence.

Confidence is all about having self assurance and feeling of certainty. When you have confidence in something you trust it. So do you trust yourself? Do you believe in yourself? I hope you do and if you don’t you’re going to at the end of the post. Believe in yourself and love yourself, trust yourself that you are good enough.

Dealing with lack of confidence can stem from a whole lot of different things. You could be lacking confidence due to your financial status, educational background, appearance, fear, insecurities and so on. Whatever reason why you are lacking in the confidence area it is originated from fear and lack of belief in yourself.

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10 Things To Do To Boost Your Confidence

ISOLATE YOUR FEAR AND TAKE ACTION: isolate your fear, treat it like the Corona virus, maintain a good distance away from it. Just joking, face it head on. The only way to overcome your fear is to take action. I know it’s not easy, I have a fear of public speaking so I decided to do something about it. Believe me it wasn’t easy when I decided to try it out. I kept on wishing the day would never come and was scared through out the week. Lucky for me the day got postponed till the next week, it didn’t help and just heightened my anxiety. Finally the day came and when it was time to come up on stage I felt like running out of the place, all of a sudden I had a stomach pain and my feets were wobbly. To cut the long story, I did it, I spoke in public holding a microphone, I got over my fear. The feeling of overcoming your fear leaves you joyous, believe me you’d be so happy that you did. So when you are afraid of something face it head on, facing it and overcoming it will build your confidence. If you have anything you’re afraid of, plan well for it and take action. You’d be happy that you did.

KILL NEGATIVE THOUGHTS: you know those thoughts that doesn’t do you any good, kill them with positive thoughts. Stop thinking low about yourself, stop seeing just your flaws, stop dwelling on things that are negative. Once you see your thoughts drifting into the negative realm, run to the positive realm. Kill the negative thoughts, stop belittling yourself, know your worth and value. Also, stay away from toxic people, the type that is constantly belittling you and making you question your worth, they’d only drag you into the realm of negativity and you don’t want that. They would only ruin your self esteem and self confidence and you don’t want that. Don’t see yourself as a failure because the moment you do you become one and that won’t make you feel good about yourself in anyway so don’t even start thinking about it in the first place. Kill your negative thoughts because when you do, you’d begin to see yourself in a new light.

EMBRACE POSITIVITY: Welcome positive thoughts and people with open arms. Think positively, counter every negative thoughts with good thoughts. Instead of feeling down and looking down at yourself. Feel good and think good thoughts. It not only keeps you sane it makes you happy and when you are happy you feel good about yourself and when you feel good about yourself you can exude confidence. Have positive affirmations that you speak to yourself to boost your confidence.

GET TO KNOW YOURSELF: get to know who you are, when you know who you are and you are proud of who you are, you’d see you’d begin to exude confidence. Know your worth, your values, what you stand for, things that make you happy. Get to know yourself better and once you do you’d begin to love yourself and be confident in yourself because you know who you are and your purpose.

CHANGE YOUR BODY LANGUAGE: you can tell if someone is confident with the way they carry themselves. So how do you carry yourself? Do you walk like you’re carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders? Do you appear dejected? Do you conduct yourself in a way that just screams that you lack confidence in yourself? I hope not but if you do, no need to worry. Work on your posture. How do you stand, walk and sit? It’s very easy to slouch I know, I still get carried away and slouch too mostly in the comfort of my room. Anyway work on how you walk, stand and sit especially in public. Work on your facial expressions and mood, you don’t want to be looking grumpy all the time, smile, it attracts people to you. When talking to someone focus on them with your eyes and body. Don’t take your eyes off them to wander around or put one leg in front of the person and the other to the side. Work on your voice too. Don’t be timid, speak with confidence and once you do so you’d appear and feel confident.

PRACTICE SELF CARE: take good care of yourself and love yourself. Feel good about yourself, work on your appearance, when you look good you’d feel good. There’s just something about wearing a nice dress, it would make you feel like a princess, look like one and act like one. Take good care of your body, treat yourself to the spa, get your hair done, practice good hygiene and just give yourself the ultimate treatment. Treat yourself like a queen and you’d begin to feel like one.

HAVE CONFIDENT ROLE MODELS: have role models that you like the way they carry themselves, role models that can help you and shape you to be a better version of you. I personally love Breeny lee and Isabel Palacois, you can check their YouTube channel out and I’m sure you’d love their content.

HAVE AFFIRMATIONS: have words you say to yourself. Speak words of love and life to yourself. Speak into existence. I have a list of affirmations I visit when I start feeling down, you can write yours too. Speak them into existence and you’d begin to believe them to be true. Instead of always saying you are ugly and dumb say you are beautiful and smart once you begin to think and believe in it, you’d start feeling it.

GO OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE: There’s this saying that before anything great must be achieved, your comfort zone must be disturbed. Leave the comfort of your house, work or company. Stop playing it safe, do what you want, take risks. When you do things that you wouldn’t have done you get brave to do more and your confidence in yourself grows.

KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS AND BUILD THEM: work on the things you’re good at, your hobby, skill or passion. Build them, invest in yourself . When you know something really well and you’re passionate about it, you’d be confident to do it or talk about it and if there’s something you don’t know learn it too.

Those are my tips on how to build your confidence and if you can’t do any, fake it till you make it. Practice being confident and looking good. Respect yourself and others and don’t be too confident because then you start to get arrogant and no one likes arrogant people.

I hope this post helped you and you’re going to build your confidence. Let me know how you’ve built your confidence over time and something you are confident in about yourself.

Thanks for reading, have a nice day.

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Nice piece. Building confidence is very important. A lot of people don’t have confidence in themselves and that’s why they are afraid to take the necessary steps to success


Great post!
I’ve been getting out of my comfort more, being positive, and quite a bit of faking it. Faking it is honestly a big one for me. Somewhere along the way real confidence always shows up.

Thanks for sharing!


This is a really nice piece and I do love it…my sis wants to even try some out to see if it will help her out.

But the point of getting to know yourself can only be done with how well u know people…in this life I have learnt that u can’t know yourself more than people around u. So u need friends to help u know yourself more.


That’s true, you can also know yourself through how you treat other people and your relationship with them. I’d be glad if it helps your sister outπŸ˜€


I really agree with you! It needs a little bit of efforts. Go out of your comfort zone! Be fearless and you will finally get the confidence. Anyway, love your post this time. Thanks for sharing xx


It’s a great post! So much positivity you have assembled here, everyone must take this write up much seriously to get over our inner suppressive demon! Thanks for sharing☺

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Some really good tips here, I also hate public speaking. I was moved roles at work to a job where public speaking was the main part of the role. This actually helped my confidence because I had no choice, but to do it. I’m a lot better now, I still get anxious but I know despite the anxiety I can do it.
Thanks for sharing, I’ll be using some of your tips.


I’ve been trying to kill my negativity and embrace positivity during these strange times. So far it’s worked quite well as I’ve had blogging to distract me from other things!

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Great tips, Anita! I believe self-confidence is crucial for a healthy and happy lifestyle. Embracing positivity and practicing positive affirmations every day have done wonders for me! After changing my mindset completely I feel so much more confident, even though I haven’t achieved all of my goals yet. Being confident just makes everything easier. Thank you for sharing this, love.

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Yes, being confident makes things easier. It makes you feel certain about yourself and your abilities. A mindset shift is totally worth it and positive affirmations. Keep it up! πŸ˜€


These are going to be so helpful! I don’t have very good confidence especially when it comes to myself and although I have been able to improve it little by little over time, it’s still not where I’d like it to be. The lack of confidence I have in myself can really have an effect on my life and it’s something I’d like to change. This advice is really going to help me to make changes and work towards being a more confident person. Thank you!

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Amazing post! I struggle with being confident. For sure, changing your environment helps. I try to avoid negative people, because I know they will put me down and make me question myself. Also, love your tips on getting out of your comfort zone. Definitely working on that!


I loved this. In my self love journey, gaining true confidence in myself and my abilities has been the hardest but the most rewarding ! Thank you for sharing !

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This is really helpful and there’s a lot of very good information in here. I’m still looking for a confident role model though, I mean I think I have one but sometimes I overthink things. Anyway, thank you so much for sharing this. I’ll definitely keep these in mind✨

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I just wrote a short daily thought post on this exact subject. Mommy style this is a little different, but mostly my message was that you’re not alone if you don’t feel confident but that doesn’t need to ruin your day. Great advice here. Next time I talk about this subject I’ll be sure to reference your post!

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Great post. Learning to know yourself is an important point. If you know your strengths you can play them up to give yourself a boost. But knowing your weaknesses also helps because you can work on them, and the more you learn then you feel more confident

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Such a great post, Nianni! I totally agree that there are people who can carry themselves well and make them look very confident. Sometimes, I practice that, and sometimes I just have trouble or I get easily intimidated depending on the situation. But I find that some of your tips are very helpful. Thanks so much for sharing! πŸ’•

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Thanks for reading Elle, I’m glad you liked reading and found the tips helpful. Yeah, there are some people who carry themselves well and look very confident and it’s something we can practice. Have a great day β™₯️

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Wonderful post. I sometimes get nervous around too many people. I don’t know what to say. But I’m learning to face my fear. Hope someday I feel confident enough to talk in front of others.

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This is a great post! I recently started my first job- without knowing anyone or not knowing what to do- and I needed all the confidence I could get! I love these tips, and I think distancing yourself from negative thoughts is a fantastic tip. I struggle with self-doubt, and so I need to have more confidence in myself and follow some of these steps πŸ™‚

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This is such a great post. I’ve definitely gotten more confident as I’ve got older and I think that’s from knowing myself more, knowing my strengths and caring less about what people think. These are great tips!

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Negative thoughts are the worst. I always tell my students that people aren’t sitting around judging them as much as they think because they’re too busy worrying people are judging them too.

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A really great post! As someone who has suffered from a lot of confidence issues, this is incredibly useful! I especially agree with the point about getting to know yourself better. I’ve been focusing on this a lot the last few months and it has done wonders. Once again, a really good post that will help a lot of people! Thank you so much for sharing.


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